Be warned: this is a post under the catagory of “On craziness”.
Ive been struggling with something for a little over 2 years now and it may seem strange to some. On the other hand, it may not to others and for those of you who have not been aware of it until now, I warn: stop reading!
The predicament is this (there’s one cliché to follow): “it is said that the eyes are the window to the soul”.
So why then do I find myself unable to talk or converse with someone comfortably while looking them in the eyes? I often don’t know where else to look. The conversation begins, I feel comfortable, but then after about 2 minutes begin to feel as though I’m boring a ten kilometer hole down the other person’s head! People begin shifting uncomfortably, find renewed interest in the paint on the walls or their cigarette. Am I alone in this?
January 23rd, 2009 - 01:42
Not at all! Glad I found someone who experiences the same thing. When I was younger I had to teach myself to maintain eye contact because I was a terribly shy kid. As I started my career it became even more important important when communicating to maintain good eye contact – but all too often I will lock onto someone’s eyes and proceed to burn holes into them. Or so it seems. I have found that brief glances at your surroundings seem to break the ‘death stare’ before it increases to an unbearable intensity.
Awesome blog by the way, will definitely be a regular.